My boyfriend and I have been together for three years now, and I love him very much. We’ve always had a good sex life and both have high libidos and open minds about trying new things in bed.
Early on in the relationship we started having anal sex which I had never tried before in previous relationships and which he likes with no added lubricant. For the most part I am able to just relax and take it and it’s been fine and I kind of like the submission of it. Before it wasn’t every time, now I feel like some type of anal stuff is just expected. Same with oral, I used to be able to just enjoy myself and vibe out and do my thing, now he wants rough, gagging oral and rimming as part of the daily repertoire.
Now, I feel like he wants more and more extreme things every time. He basically always asks for some kind of double penetration (him and a toy) and also lingerie/costumes etc. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I feel like saying “Sir, this is a random Tuesday, and we both have work and things to do, come on”
I feel like regular PIV sex is not adequate and it makes me feel insecure. I physically can’t be doing stuff like this almost every day, sometimes my body hurts or am not in the mood. I feel like it’s my fault because I allowed it to get to this point . I feel like you can’t ask someone to go backwards sexually. I enjoy most of it just not EVERY TIME.
Is it a recipe for disaster to try to back peddle sexually with your partner now that they’re used to whatever they want? I feel like I tricked him into thinking I am some sort of sex robot but I am just a human