Not sure where to start, but i’ll try to give as much context as needed so you guys can understand the situation.
Me (21M) and my girlfriend (22F) have been dating for almost a year and a half now. We were best friends before we got together, so we get along very well and have a lot of similar interests. We both still live with our parents due to living situations, but we still hang out often and call every night to play games together or just talk. I sometimes stay at her place for a week or so just so we can spend time together, but that happens every other month.
I’ll start by saying that i have a very high sex drive and she does not. She loves sex just as much as i do but she isn’t in the mood for it as often as i am. It’s caused some problems in our relationship because there will often be times when i stay at her place and during the morning/night i get very horny and in the mood to do something, but she isn’t so i often am left to help myself. She says she has no problem with me jerking myself off to relieve myself if i want to, but that kind of turns me off so i end up not doing anything about it and waiting until my boner goes down. I’m not sure why it turns me off but if i had to guess it’s because we don’t have alone time very often, so i usually want to get intimate with her when we have the privacy but she doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings so i guess it makes me feel rejected or something? I sometimes go through with it though and she offers to make out with me and play with my nipples while i jerk myself off but it just doesnt satisfy me enough and leaves me wanting me more, and that makes me feel shitty.
I know she doesn’t owe me sex and i respect her boundaries but this does leave me sexually frustrated at times. I’ve communicated with her how this makes me feel and she says she feels bad that she isn’t ever in the mood to help me out when i get horny. We have sex maybe once or twice a month and i love every second of it, but i think it’s just not enough for me?? It makes me feel selfish that i want more out of our sex life, but at the same time i don’t blame myself because i recognize our sex drives are just different. I love her very much but i can’t lie, this does bother me at times. Any advice on how to move forward with this would be helpful.
I’m not sure what else to say, but please feel free to ask me any questions in the comments. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and i appreciate any feedback or input.