I have been in a serious relationship for almost 5 years and dating since 6. It’s been a really serious relationship. You could say we are best friends and I grew up with him. I was 23 when I met him and so young and naive. I have come far since then. Ideally, everything seems perfect in our relationship. There’s some complaints from both ends, but I guess it’s normal. However, there’s one thing that has been eating me alive. My bf never touches me. We never had a lot of sex so I never expected to fuck everyday. But with time it got less and less. Mind you he has cheated on me at the very beginning of our relationship. There was an incident where I caught him packing condoms for a boys trip, just a few days before he had said his sex drive is just low when I started crying about him not touching me. All of these was at the beginning of our relationship, then covid happened and we became each other’s support system and I forgave him with time and things improved on that end. However, our sex life only got worse and worse to a point that he almost never touches me. I am never enough to stimulate him and I never see any sexual desire for me in his eyes. I know a lot of guys will think it’s because I am ugly. But I assure you that’s not the case. I am a young attractive woman in my 20s who always gets hit on when I go out. I maintain my body, I take care of myself and am always well dressed. However, nothing is enough to make him want me.
He in the past have expressed his desire of having threesomes and foursomes many times. I even tried a few times but not a big fan of it. However, he immediately gets hard at the thought of inviting a new person to our bed but never gets hard just looking at me even if I am naked.
More than that, recently he innocently spurted out checking one of my friends Instagram. I know for a fact that he finds her hot. And I know this is not supposed to be a big deal. But it affected me so much. I don’t think guys realise how much they hurt their gfs/ partners when they lust on women online. And to do that while you don’t even touch your own gf is so hurtful.
I didn’t want to share it with anyone as I don’t have many friends where I live. I moved to a country I don’t speak the language of for him. But nothing you can do is enough for man of this generation 🙁
Tl;dr- My (28F) man (33M) of 5 years barely touches me but still watches porn and women online. Has also cheated in the past and gets horny only with the idea of a threesome or foursome.