Situation: SIL was staying at our place with her 2 toddlers. Husband and I have a fairly new house. It’s not big but it’s an open concept layout where the family room, dining room, kitchen all connect. Husband and I are both career people who mostly spend weekends relaxing/chilling and recovering from the work week. (We’ll do fun things here and there).
I am personally not a fan of house guests asking for people to come over and visit. SIL asked if her friend could come to our house and visit, especially with the kids being at our place. Her friend could see them while they catch up. I do give her a little bit of credit for asking in advance but still thought it was rude. I feel like if she was staying at her parents’ house, this would not be an issue and they would oblige. Husband and I offered to watch the kids and if she wanted to see her friend, she would have to meet with her elsewhere. I feel like it would be a win-win (mom getting some time alone to catch up with her friend) OR she could bring her kids along.
On top of that, husband and I haven’t really entertained in the house. We’ve just been settling/enjoying it. We’ve met SIL’s friend and she is nice but we don’t want to feel like we’re hosting for someone else. SIL kept wanting to talk it out but she’s the type who will say/do anything until she gets her way (manipulative). I think a simple “no” with no explanation is it. If I were to give an explanation, it means it is up for debate, which it’s not. Thoughts?