I had a friend of mine who has a kid. He like to have parties and include her, which I mean is whatever.
Last time I saw him was before the Pandemic and he invited everyone but me and our other friends ( other couple) both don’t have kids. I get the need to include you kid but last time I didn’t have a great time. He actually did the same thing a couple Saturdays ago but this isn’t the worst part (as I don’t feel too much connected to people in the parent grind). I do think not disclosing kids being there is strategic on this part to get me over.
The worst part was the fact all his friends (mainly locals with kids and one couple without kids), he met since moving to his new house came like 1-2 hours late… The kicker was I wanted to come later (6-7pm) and he said “It would be over by then”, so came over @ 3:10pm and hung out for > 1 hour until he first couple (no kids) and everyone else came between 1-2 hours late. By the end and the lack of my type of people I dipped @ 6pm as I had to get home to feed my dog.
The kicker is he said people I wanted to hang were there til 11pm to which I reminded him I wanted to come later and he told me to come earlier.
I know it’s not him, but his friends, but damn would I have said something if my guests came so late. These are well off people who are middle aged.
I am going out a a lot more but is this super common. Seems rude and made me judge all these people super hard exacerbating any lack of connection I felt.