I (22f) have been with my boyfriend (25m) for 7 years. This is the only relationship I have been in, and I greatly lacked an example of a good relationship growing up. Today, we went to various stores. I paid at the first few (\~$200), and then we went to the last store. I was just buying something for my hair, so we were standing in line and I was intending to pay for it. Then I wanted to check for something else at the store, so I handed him the item to go look. He said “Ugh I have to pay for this?” half under his breath but still perfectly audible. I asked “what?” just to made sure I heard him right, and then he repeated himself. I said “I paid at the last 2 stores and got you a $20 shirt, you can pay for $5 hair clips” (in an assertive and somewhat annoyed tone) to which he responded “stop embarrassing yourself” (there were people both in front and behind us in line). I left to go look for the other item.
We discussed after we were back in the car, and he said he doesn’t think I should act like that in public. Maybe I am too comfortable or uncaring about the thoughts of those around me, but I thought what I said was fine to say in front of other shoppers and a reasonable response to what he said. So I guess I am left wondering, is this weird behavior in public? I know he is sensitive to others’ thoughts of him; for example, we went to a concert and he said he wouldn’t dance because he felt like the strangers next to him would judge him because they were not dancing (a grand majority of people were dancing). For that reason, I would like to hear others’ perspectives.
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TLDR: We were at a grocery store, he complained under his breath, I was upset by his statement and immediately said why I disagreed. He said “stop embarrassing yourself.” I am wondering if my upset response in public was a normal response or not.