For the past 6 months I (33f) haven’t been able to climax. I use to be able to squirt, climax, cum all in different ways, but lately I haven’t been able to reach that little last note, like I feel the orgasm building and it does feel good almost reaching it but I can fully “explode” into that orgasm/climax where you’re left breathless, legs and whole body just shaking.
I just can’t climax at all, not on my own, with my partner, toys, nothing and squirting?… not even close!!
My libido is still high, or higher I think since I can’t fully finish. I have multiple toys, all kinds of them, love watching porn and nothing seems to be working like before. Is it age, life ( I even got promoted and I am less stressed) honestly I have no clue how to fix it!!! Help! I’m going crazy!!
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Any changes in medication or diet recently? It might be worth talking to your doctor about this.
Maybe you’ve gotten “used” to the more stressful work-life balance you previously had before your promotion?
We always hear about how reducing stress will increase sex drive and sexual satisfaction and, while certainly true, it’s also true that many people are creatures of habit and, if your promotion was relatively recent (you don’t say how long you’ve been in your new position), you might still be adjusting to this new way of life.
Also, another possibility – when you were working more for less money (I assume your promotion brought with it a pay rise?), it’s likely that a part of you – namely the part at the extreme end of your sex drive that allowed you to squirt and climax in “all different ways” was a form of stress relief – it’s not only men who describe an orgasm as helping them to relax after all. Now that you have LESS stress, your body might not be needing that urgent “release” as much. Perhaps dialling back how often you have sex to build up that frustration might help push you over the “edge”.