if you’re in a monogomous relationship, you’re monogamous… even if you might discover you’d rather not be.
why do people act like their choices are part of their identity? immutable characteristics, even.
it makes people seem manipulative and toxic, through and through.
while I don’t find nonmonogamy appealing in my romantic relationships, and I don’t have anything against those who do find happiness in those arrangements, my perception is that most of the time the people who say they’re “polyamorous” are anything but healthy and truly happy… and being ridiculous about it only reaffirms this perception
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>my perception is that most of the time the people who say they’re “polyamorous” are anything but healthy and truly happy… and being ridiculous about it only reaffirms this perception
God, this is so true for me. I tried poly twice and both times, they were not healthy and truly happy. They were quite depressed, actually.
In the first time I tried poly, she told me from the very beginning, but the second time I tried it was also me getting back with my ex (different from the first, mind you), and that time was even worse. We were both in the car, I thought it was just us hanging out, and she just told me “guess I didn’t tell you, but I’m poly”. Just “came out” like it was not a big deal, and like a fool, I took the bait.