When i was a teenager, premature ejaculation ruined my relationship. My gf at the time wanted 10+ minutes of hard fucking and i was only able to exceed that 3-4 times over the course of our 4 year relationship.
I was so embarrassed and upset by it that i abstained from sex for about 10 years. I still dated a bit, but every time it was time for sex, i would insist on cunnilingus instead (which a shocking number of women refuse).
3 months ago i started dating my current partner who has also been mostly sexless for the better part of her adult life. I feel love again for the first time in a decade and i trusted her enough to finally let my walls down.
When we started having sex I was shocked to find that i no longer cum quickly, in fact, i cannot climax at all. Unlike my ex, my current gf cannot handle anymore than 5 minutes of penetration, and prefers oral and hands (which i love). I have no trouble getting her off, but she feels horrible that she can’t return the favor. Personally, i don’t care at all about finishing, but i hate that she feels the same shame that i felt for so long.
Physically i am very healthy. I am a former professional athlete and current rockclimber. I did however recently have a bad bout with covid and the flu. What can i do to fix this?