I have a feeling about what im going to do. But i could really use some advice.
I (28m) have been dating a classmate (25f) in grad school for 2-2.5 months. We see eachother about 2-3 times a week (for class and hanging out). We have been on a few dates, spend time together after class and text a lot. We know a lot about each other but dont really have any shared hobbies. Shes stayed over and we have been pretty intimate, although no PIV (which im not ready for yet, but she is).
The other day she wanted to have a talk about “us” and to know if we were on the same page. Essentially she said shes into me a lot and is developing stronger feelings, though its “not serious”. I dont believe her when she says “not serious”, because she also said her feelings make her scared and worried as she doesnt want to be hurt. I asked her about if her expectations would change and she didnt answer.
Her words caught me by surprise as she constantly needs reassurance and questions my seriousness about us. Shes very “traditional” and makes me chase her affection. Ive been putting in the effort but Its been pretty offputting and i havent really felt like my own feelings have been reciprocated. It feels like planning our relationship and emotional care is always up to me. I told her i cant promise anything more than what we have (I dont have the time, money, or emotional capacity to dedicate anything further). I dont think she repects my own situation and is always expecting more.
Theres more that i could say, but ultimately im not really feeling a strong connection between us (or that its getting stronger). She seems to have made a larger/faster leap into this than i have. There is a lot to like, shes great in many ways. But i dont feel that we sync up so well at this time.
Before this goes any further i have to break it off with her right?