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me (19F) and my boyfriend (19M) have been together for almost 2 years. we’ve been living together since the end of 2023. i moved a couple of hours away for college in the fall of 2023 and ever since then our relationship has been different. i tried to go to parties with my roommates while i away and he always threatened to break up with me if i ever “stepped foot in a frat house or bar/club” (we had only been together for 2 months at that point) i ended up deciding to move back home to my local university for my sophomore year to be closer to him, my friends, and family. fast forward at the almost 2 year mark of our relationship, and nothing has changed. in february my best friend turned 21 and for her birthday she wanted to go to the club and drink and dance. i obviously wanted to go with her and our other friends to celebrate and my boyfriend threatened to break up with me again if i went. his mind set is that “bars are for single people so if you really want to go, you’ll go single” and that “bars and clubs are where people to go to find one night stands.” i tried explaining to him that it was only going to be us girls in our own private vip area and he finally let up about it but it was still obviously angry about me going. he said it was “disgusting” that i even wanted to go when i am with him. i ended up going anyways and had a blast. it is now april and i bought my little sister and I tickets to go see Morgan Wallen with two of my friends in May an hour and 45 minutes away from where we all live. my sister has wanted to go to one of his shows for YEARS now and it was a perfect surprise. i told him that i surprised her and the first thing he asked me was “well are you guys planning on staying the night down there?” i told him we haven’t made a decision on whether or not we were going to get a hotel room for after the concert. he then proceeds to tell me that i can either come home after the concert is over OR if i do end up staying the night, that he will drive down there, hang out outside of the stadium WHILE we are all at the concert, and get a hotel room so that he can be there to “protect me” and that he “advises” that i come home afterwards. i don’t believe him at all when he says he is acting like this to protect me. i believe he just feels the need to have control over any and everything that i do.
thoughts and opinions???? 🙂