Hey, 22 F here. Partner is 23M.
A bit of context:
I’ve been with my partner for 6 years, and I’m the first and only person he has ever slept with. I had several bf’s before him, and did a lot of sexual stuff, but only really slept with one once and it was a DISASTER (we were young teens and it was a whole thing).
Despite this, current bf and I are both very comfortable and happy in our sex lives, for the most of it. We’re pretty experimental, I’m an absolute sub and he’s a dom. We both really enjoy rough sex, and anal, and when we can, we’ll try and indulge as much as possible, but we both live in shared housing and like to be respectful so it’s not always as rough as we want to be.
Anyways, here’s what’s going on.
I am a very horny individual, I masterbate like 5-6 times a night (it’s such a habit now that if I don’t I can’t sleep). We don’t live together because I’m at uni, so we only see each other once a month unless its the holidays. Whenever we do see each other, the sex is always great, but he can only come once a day, or if we’re strategic and have sexy early in the morning and late at night, then that works too. The thing is, after he cums, it’s painful for him to stay hard and it takes a long time for him to basically ‘recharge’ if that makes sense.
Once he cums, sex is basically over for me as well because a) it hurts for him to carry on, and b) once he’s done, I get too much in my head and feel like a bother to him for him to touch me etc, or even for me to touch myself, and I get extremely self conscious because its like we’re no longer in ‘sex mode’. I am happy after sex, but I feel almost unsatisfied? I don’t know how to phrase it. Because I reach a high number of orgasms myself when I’m alone, I think I’m acclimatised to it and when I don’t reach the same number with my partner, maybe 2, 3 max, I feel like things are always left unfinished.
The problem is, because my bf can only cum once a day, he can’t figure out a way to make him last longer so we can have sex for longer.
I’m not complaining, he is GREAT at sex, I’m very happy with how the sex is, and I love him more than anything, but I just wish we cud find a way around this? I don’t know if anyone else has experienced this but I’d just appreciate someone to talk to or for someone to offer some advice.
Thanks guys 🙂