I (22F) have Been with my bf (21M) for over a year now. When we started dating he had basically no sexual experience so when there were some ED things happening we wrote it off as nerves. But it continued. It doesn’t matter what we do, oral, PIV, hands, whatever, he goes soft after a few minutes.
We have had several conversations about it because I get upset about it despite trying my best not to but I feel sad that he’s not orgasming regularly with me. Every time he says that he doesn’t know why it’s happening because what we’re doing feels good. I’ve directly asked if there’s anything I am doing wrong/ anything I could be doing better and he insists there’s not. So either one of two things are true. He is not telling me the full truth, maybe I am doing something that doesn’t feel good for him, or he genuinely doesn’t know and needs to see a doctor.
I want to suggest he sees a doc because it’s really effecting our sex life, but I want to be gentle about it so it doesn’t put pressure on him and make the whole thing worse. How do I do that?