I’m trying to recover from an incident which happened to me a couple of months ago. I finally met my friend group after 1 year of online classes at university, only to realise that I was excluded from several of their group hangouts, and was cold shouldered whenever I started conversation.
Whenever I used to confront them, they used to brush it off saying they were joking with me, and accused me of over thinking. But one fateful day, on the new years eve, they left for a party without me. Out of anger, I left all the mutual friend groups, and since then, it turned worse for me, as all started giving me silent treatment.
This post is just to reduce the pain and emotional baggage I had been carrying. If possible, I also might need help on how to handle such situations in future.
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I had something similar. My old friend group would occasionally do things without me. But they were all going to be roommates anyway, and several other people of the group wouldn’t be invited to my hangouts anyway. I’m dear friends with two of them still. And I left that group because I didn’t feel that I had stuff in common with them (big anime nerds). There’s no animosity between those people and me.
I made a new friend group. But one of the guys made it toxic. I was invited to every hangout though. When I called him out on his bullshit he kicked me out of the group. And everyone who didn’t wanna loose the drugs sided with him.
I haven’t heard of many friend groups that were perfect. Exclusion is pretty typical for every friend group I’ve been apart of or witnessed. But honestly people in a herd act differently than as individuals. Your friends sound especially tribal. Probably because they lost time in high school to develop into actual adults lol. They probably knew each other before you, or have more in common. Best to cut contact and start fresh. It will take a lot of time to find a new group. But individual friends are amazing.