A while ago, me and my boyfriend (both 20) tried oral sex for the first time. We were both virgins and pretty new at the thing. We did our research and bought condoms, contraceptives and whatnot.
However.. embarrassingly enough we failed miserably at it. He couldn’t get hard enough for the condom, and when he did get a bit hard, the condom still folded and when I tried putting it in while sitting on top of him it folded a bit again making it a bit loose but eventually never made it in me. Not to mention that it hurted when he was stretching out my hymen attempting to put it in. Luckily we both communicated with each other so we left it there.
For me, being the female how can I “stretch” out my hymen and make it hurt less for next time? I know I can touch myself down there but I don’t know how to make sure I actually stretched the tissue.
As for my boyfriend, how can I help him get hornier? Should I play with his earlobes— or should we get and alternative that can help him get hornier?
Thanks to any of y’all who are willing to help these us two inexperienced twinks 😂.