She (f29) tells me it’s just because she “over-sexualized herself when she was younger, that it was mostly performative and lacked true intimacy. I understand this but at the same time I’m young (f29) and I want intimacy yes…but also ache for wild, filthy, nasty sex. I don’t want the lackluster sex life of suburbia. We’ve communicated about this dozens of times, I feel like I’ve never gotten a real answer. It makes me feel like I’m not good enough in bed for her to get dirty with. I’ve never been insecure like this before. What do you think her reasoning could be??