My husband (35m) and I (38f) were virgins when we got married (13 years ago). We both were/are very Christian and valued waiting until marriage so we did (though… it was a challenge).
Our sex life has always been pretty vanilla and I am interested in spicing things up…
I’ve had mild Os, and a few pretty good ones— but nothing I’d call mind blowing… and never multiple. Like… he usually seems to get off better than me– and I’ve def read women’s Os can be way more intense?
We are not okay with watching porn, and I know he would not want to see graphic photos.
One of the other problems is I’m incredibly shy/self conscious. I’m like that in general… pretty quiet. I don’t undress in front of my husband– I’ll wear lingerie but… I don’t flaunt it or anything. I am not verbal in bed at all. Like, i want to do those things but I never seem to be able to work up the nerve when it comes time. And now after 13 years… it feels even more awkward to start now? Embarrassing?
I know that sounds silly after being married to the same man for 13 years 😅. I used to love my body too, so it wasn’t that I was self conscious about how I looked, at least not the first few years… Now is another story. After 6 babies full term everything sags, I look perpetually 3+ months pregnant (even though my last baby was 2 years ago). My stomach is the most embarrassing part for me… I can’t even suck it all in.
Anyway……. I’d like to get over my shyness in the bedroom… and I’d love to find some materials/videos/courses/books etc that we can learn some new things from that are presented tastefully. (I know my husband won’t look at anything with actual people… maybe not even drawn people).
I’d say specific foreplay instructions and tips for my husband lasting longer or “helping me” finish if he finishes too soon are priorities… but I think we’d like to learn more in general.
Also if there are any suggestions of good threads to post/get advice from let me know!