I’ve [21F]been looking and pursuing all kinds of men, but the ones I want the most I can’t have I several different occasions I’ve found interest in engaged men. The just have all the traits im looking for in a person. l’d never be a homewrecker so I obviously distance myself as soon as I find out. Recently I just lucked out on a guy [30M] who’s completely aligned with me. But guess what… instead of a fiance to look out for he has a son. I really like him but this almost worse than dealing with an almost married man. His BM situation is literally the best it could be: they only talk about the kid, alternates weeks consistently, no child support/court involved, she’s about to be married, and the arrangement has consistently ongoing since birth, severalyears now. I really like him, I don’t know how i feel about being 2nd place right out the gate. I have an unpopular opinion about family structures as well so let me know if yall wanna hear that. So should I continue to pursue?