First of all, I understand that I’m a bit of a hypocrite in this because I watch porn regularly. My girlfriend and I are both open sexually and know this about each other. Recently, I picked up her phone to search a recipe up and clicked back (by accident) to her previous webpages. There, I saw she was on some website where it’s just dudes masturbating and male nudes. Neither of us share what we watch and I guess I would be more comfortable if she was watching actual scenes of people but seeing just other guys made me incredibly uncomfortable.
I’m not an insecure dude but I was not expecting that. I know erotic novels and audios are popular with women and I was okay with knowing she might be into that but no, it’s just other men solo-ing.
I guess it just makes me insecure and makes me feel like I’m not enough for her. She also never asks me to send her nudes or videos so that makes it worse. Anything she’s seeing online, I could do myself. I just don’t know how to bring this up to her because I love porn myself and don’t want to stop her from doing something she loves.
I’ve been distant from her since and feel a bit grossed out. How should I tackle this with seeing like an insecure AH?
We’ve been together for 4 years.