I (24F) have gone on 2 dates with this guy (24M). They have both gone *extremely* well, and probably could have lasted much longer than they did if the restaurants/bars we were at weren’t closing. Baseline we have a lot in common and get along really well. My only issue is that he’s a horrible texter and hasn’t really taken the initiative to make future plans. After our first date, I texted him first thanking him and suggesting going on a second date. He agreed and I made the plan for him to come to my neighborhood and check out some of the bars around town. We both were busy for a few weekends, but once I got back in town, I texted again to see if he was still down. This may sound stupid but I feel weird always being the one to reach out / check in. Our second date was a week ago, and it went perfectly and the night ended with a kiss. He said he’d text me, and we both agreed on a third date. I still haven’t heard from him and my pride is telling me not to be the one who texts first again lol.
It’s also worth noting that he has “looking for a long-term relationship” on his Hinge profile. So I’ve just been telling myself that he’s shy? Maybe he doesn’t have much experience with dating? These are things that I will definitely ask if (when – I’m being positive) this third date happens.
Would love to hear some thoughts – guys I’ve gone out with in the past are normally eager to plan the next date, and they always text first and just overall are better at communicating. Do you think he just isn’t interested or what? Please tell me if I’m overthinking this lol. Thanks!