Were 16 and 17. Lately with school ending she has been really “touchy” high fiving,asking for hugs,asking me to walk with her to a class (just one),etc And I liked her before and she knew before. She even said she liked me. But now she doesn’t she thinks they sort of went away. Although I think she can sense that something is different. I didnt give her a hug today and she didnt say anything about me not giving her a hug. She had mentioned earlier in the day she wanted one. And then later texted me that she will get one next week. Truth be told I got scared that i would get “excited” (yes like that. And it would touch her) so I didnt do anything. I…😅 is this being friendly or? I don’t wanna miss a shot I know I could have had. Also a bit scared that when she hugs me maybe she’ll kiss me. Should I tell her I like her again? She has a boyfriend
Tl;dr afraid to hug friend.
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No risk no reward. Be honest and hope it all works well.
bro just hug her, it’ll be over before the blood even gets where it wants to go. Have you never hugged or kissed a girl before?
“You gotta date me if you want regular access to my amazing hugs. Otherwise I’m just giving it away for free.”
Big smile. Your point has been made.
Good luck!
“Hey to be honest with you I’m not comfortable with this level of physical intimacy in a strictly platonic friendship. If you could see us as more than that, I am open to us going on a date and feeling things out, including being physically close. However if you aren’t interested in that, I kindly ask you to respect my boundaries”.
Edited to add: if she has a boyfriend, obviously omit the dating part and just tell her straight up that you would like the hugs to stop as they make you uncomfortable and you don’t feel they are entirely appropriate in the context of her relationship.
“I don’t like hugs. Could we do a high five instead?”
But what a great story if you did. Collect atleast a few good stories in life. It may even end well.
You guys I did it.😅 let’s see what she responds with hopefully she’ll just take it as a joke.