Hi there Reddit,
I’d like to ask for advice on a throwaway account about my (39F) and my husband’s (38M) relationship.
Roughly 1.5 years ago (married for 5.5 years with an almost 4 year old child), I’ve tried to bring up what’s exciting me in the bedroom. This includes BDSM and the equipment that goes along with it. We’ve also discussed going to a dungeon and bringing in other people, to which he said absolutely no. I was so excited to explore and everything, including toys, was basically shut down. There’s no variety in the bedroom unless I’m bringing it in and now I’m severely insecure about it.
Yesterday, we were out and I commented on a waitress being really hot and he goes “sure! Get her number and I’m happy to watch or even fuck you while you eat her out”.
Are we doomed?