To start with, I’ve never actually *tried* being dominant or idk, “not vanilla?” so for all I know, I am and am great at it lol.
BUT
I am not by nature a dominant man in a sexual sense. It’s just not me or who I am. It feels uncomfortable and weird to try to be because it’s not natural for me. Then again, I’ve never tried so I actually have no idea. I just think that it would be awkward to pretend to be dominant.
That being said, I prefer more “vanilla” sex, as in missionary, doggy, cowgirl, and whatever other position but, am very open in trying new kinks so long as it’s nothing crazy. I’d never be into pain that inflicts bleeding or CNC or idk, very physically “abusive” type behavior. Spanking is one thing but idk if I could ever slap a woman or outright punch her in the face in the middle of sex – and yes, I’ve been asked to do this before. I wanted to punch her just for asking that but instead I came.
I get that every woman is different, likes/wants different things, and also realize that a lot of women like a variation of vanilla mixed with rough sex but, what if a man isn’t naturally dominant and the rough stuff he tries is not actually “rough?”