Getting out of your head an into your body

Anyone else struggle to vibe, be charismatic and make people laugh/feel connected, but can talk logic, gossip and complain for hours!! Used to think i was introverted/socially anxious but now think I have deep fear of failure socially an want peoples validation more then just expressing myself, I always felt if i can be interesting logically, having knowledge of things etc people will like me more but i dont think thats the case, especially around women.