Ok—so right into it. Fuck buddy and I had an impromptu session tonight. He primarily likes to do anal although we do lots of other things and positions while we are together.
Admittedly it was not planned, only about an hours notice (usually we set things up at least a day or two in advance). So I quickly prepped by using the bathroom and douching with water till it was clear, put in a butt plug and went over to his place.
(Side note, he asked me to shower before I came over and I responded with “I showered this morning, good enough?” And he said “are you stinky?” Which I didn’t know how to interpret really, so I just freshened up and made sure I wasn’t sweaty etc.)
Ok, so at his place-we start with me giving him head and then he has me lay on my belly to do anal. Great, hot, fun—I cum multiple times. He rolls off to take a breather, goes to the bathroom to wash up—all fine. Comes back, he asks for more head—cool, not a problem. He finally says to get on the edge of the bed and bend over and starts to do vaginal sex when suddenly he stops and says “we’re done”
I’m confused, so I ask him if I did something wrong and he just says “you need some Summers Eve, you have a smell”. Um, okay?? So I’m embarrassed and he just keeps saying “I’m not trying to be a dick about it” and goes to wash up again. While I’m alone I do a quick check of things and smell my hand—everything from my vagina smells totally normal and fine, tastes normal etc. So now I’m super confused. But then I check the rear door, and discover a little leakage/mucus. Okay—cool cool. Still a bit embarrassing and I get why he was grossed out.
He offers that I could take a shower-which at this point I do hop in to clean up. I am still embarrassed but I get dressed and when I try to clarify things he reiterates that my vagina smelled bad and “don’t worry it could be ph or diet or stress”.
My worry here isn’t that I have a ph or diet problem—how do I approach this and make it clear to him that what happened was 💩. We’ve been hooking up for about 3 months and this has never happened before.
My other concern is his bluntness about being “smelly” like when he asked me to shower before hand. And then I did indeed end up being smelly and he got turned off. He didn’t seem mad-I just don’t think he knew how to handle it tactfully.
How would you handle this?