I 25f unintentionally met and fell in love with my ex 26m. I’ll call him Will for this. Will was working at a clinic I went to after work. I immediately noticed but did nothing due to me being ill. But afterwards, I would always look forward to seeing him on every appointment. On my 3rd appointment, he kinda began casual talk and we went from there. (It’s kinda funny how a complex mishap led to our relationship). He’s perfect even with his flaws. He’s nerdy, kind hearted, goofy, brave, smart, wise, resourceful, and the best lover I had. The only major problem is his dad. I don’t think I can find a word to describe this man. I can only express the feelings: resentment, annoyed, and other dark emotions I haven’t identified.
Will admitted that his dad didn’t like me since the very beginning which I believed because he was very hot n cold towards me and Will basically cornered him to meet me. Just to turn around and try to pin Will against me when my dad wasn’t ready to meet him even though he met the rest of my family. Whenever Will sees me, his dad would very unnecessarily cruel texts like “you can stay with your wife and father in law” or “your obligation to this house comes first”. I have also overheard him say things like he doesn’t compare to me. Mind you, we’re all claim to be Christian (I’m the best I’ll admit). But he loves using the Bible verse of how men should choose their wives over the family they raised by, well until Will tries to do the same. We’re not married but we were working towards that and every time his dad has some type of crisis and needs him to once again “put his obligations to the house before anything”. Having certain duties in the house you live in doesn’t bothers but expecting Will always give him large sum of money is what bothers me. Will’s dad been a truck driver for 5 years; Will’s salary between different jobs range from $9-14/hr.
To end this long rant, here’s some crappy things his dad did:
• abandon them for his mistress (now wife) and her kids
• laid hands on him twice growing up
• sold his car without his knowledge, kept the money but let him uses his car instead now
• switched tags on the car (the police stopped us and he almost got in trouble for that)
• hounding him for money when he had $6,000+ to take his mistress and her kids on a trip
Etc etc
He had multiple conversations with me about putting friends and family before our relationship but he’s not doing the same. I don’t want him to end things with his dad but I need him to step up and stop being so passive about it.
Do I try and work it out or move on with my life?