Hey everyone, seeking some advice here. I'm a guy in my mid-30s, married for a couple of years now. It was an arranged marriage, and while the girl seemed great on paper and came from a decent family, we quickly realized we're not compatible. Despite expressing my concerns before the wedding, I went ahead with it due to family pressure, hoping things would improve over time. Fast forward to now, and we're both struggling to connect, feeling more like roommates than partners.
Here's the breakdown of our interests:
My Interests:
- Career-focused, started from the bottom and now earning around $1500 a day.
- Constantly striving for professional growth and a higher standard of living.
- Enjoy occasional outings to bars, restaurants, clubs, and traveling, but see them as rewards for hard work.
- Attracted to independent, confident women.
My Wife's Interests:
- Enjoys dressing up, socializing with friends, dining out, clubbing, and traveling, funded by her wealthy family.
- Doesn't prioritize a career or financial independence.
Conflicts arise from our differing lifestyles:
- I value productivity and find it hard to resonate with her desire to relax all day and party at night.
- She expects lavish trips without contributing financially.
- Wants to be my top priority but doesn't share my values regarding career and personal growth.
- Despite my encouragement, she shows little interest in pursuing her own passions or goals.
Summary:
While my wife isn't a bad person, our lack of alignment in life goals and values has led to constant friction. I've considered divorce, but I'm hesitant due to concerns about being single again, financial implications, and hurting our families.
Any advice on navigating this situation would be greatly appreciated. I'm seeking a fulfilling, harmonious relationship with someone who shares my drive and enthusiasm for life.