It's been almost five years since my husband and I had sex. For a couple of years prior to this, we used to have sex twice or three times a year. Neither of us have initiated sex for the past five years nor have had an open talk on this. He's a very loving and caring man, and I am 100 percent sure he doesn't have any affairs. It's just that there's no sex between us. I have lost the urge to have sex and do not feel the need to have sex anymore. However, I am not sure what his feelings are. It feels awkward to initiate any conversation on this topic. I want to know if this is normal, and do men also lose the urge to have sex after 40 years of age?
UPDATE: Thank you all for the comments and suggestions. To add further context, my husband and I have been married for more than 20 years now, and the low-sex drive has been for the past 6 to 7 years. We still hug each other while sleeping at night. For people who find it strange that I am not able to talk about this with my husband, we both come from a different cultural background where sex is still considered taboo and having an open conversation on this topic is difficult. And for people wondering why I raised this question online if I did not have the urge anymore, though we have not had any open discussion, I see no signs of frustration in my husband's attitude or behavior, and I assumed that he was completely okay with a no-sex life. He's been under medication for high cholesterol for the past few years, and I'm guessing that might be one of the reasons for the low-sex drive. In my case, I'm assuming that I have lost the drive because of a lack of sexual activity for so many years and perimenopause. For people who are judging my character based on my other post, I do not see anything wrong with feeling lonely after a trust break with a person whom I considered a best friend. This does not mean I do not love my husband or am looking for a relationship outside.