my girlfriend and i have been together for 5 years and this whole time she has been on birth control. we used condoms in the beginning as well but slowly stopped using them and haven’t for probably 3-4 years now. a little over a month ago she stopped taking birth control and i asked her why and she just tells me she doesn’t want to be on it anymore. i would love to have kids with her someday but for now i am just enjoying my time as just us and not having that huge responsibility yet. she also hasn’t mentioned wanting to have kids yet either. we have a good sex life and i obviously don’t want to stop having sex with her and neither does she but i cannot trust condoms enough and i would never force her to continue birth control or make her feel bad for not wanting to take it if that’s not something she wants to be on. i’m a little stuck on where to go from here. i know it’ll be my luck that one of these days a condom will break or even we will eventually get too cocky have sex without one and just fuck it up in some way. i’m just not sure how to go about this to where im not pushing her to get back on birth control, and also not ruin our sex life annnd also not get her pregnant. maybe im overthinking this and condoms are reliable idk ive just never trusted them fully and i do not want to have kids yet
edit: i understand what condoms are and to wear them. we wear condoms now fully. i also do not pressure my girlfriend into being on birth control i fully support whatever she wants to do with her body. i was just asking for advice since i dont fully trust just condoms alone. many have suggested to track her cycle which is a great piece of advice i wasn’t aware of before so thank you to those who gave genuine advice! also anyone telling me to leave her you’re crazy. she did nothing wrong. she told me when she was off it she never hid it from me. it did surprise me cause she didn’t mention it before that. would it have been nice if she did? yeah bht she’s an amazing girlfriend i love her very much and would never leave her based off a choice she made for her own body and health.