My wife and I have been reigniting our relationship and getting back into old habits and, for her, trying new aspects.
For me, I've always enjoyed oral. I've been a huge fan of pleasing my partners to the best of my ability. My wife has never been for it in the past and always resisted and I respected her wishes, much to my disappointment.
I've recently in the last number of months got her to agree to let me go down on her and it's like a light has switched for her and now really enjoys it. I am happy. The problem: I can't get her to the promise land. She complains about it being too rough, I have a beard, and she says it causes her discomfort but she really enjoys it, but we never get past that, nor do I get her off. She wants to get back to the squirting of old, before we got together.
I've asked her to talk me through when I'm getting her right, but I can't get her at all past the initial "there" point. At least, not since she had our daughter, but that was four years ago.
Which brings me to her and me. She has recently started blowing me (or trying to) but has a horrible gag reflex. She always argues that she doesn't want to throw up on me, but otherwise doesn't back away from trying. She gets only the tip for the most part. I don't ask for her to deepthroat me, but she never tries to go beyond the tip despite saying she wants to (fear of the gag reflex) and she can't get me off.
She can't get me off in any fashion, whether it be oral or physical sex. I have a bit of anxiety because of our "issues," but I can get myself off without much effort.
Does anyone have suggestions to overcome these issues?