Last week I(26M) saw this really cute Eastern European girl (26F) and decided to say hi. We exchanged instagrams and met up for coffee today.
When I saw her I went to give her a hug but noticed she was hesitant so we shook hands. Complemented her, we sat down and had a bit of small talk about our day. Talked about food and basic get to know each other talk.
I couldn’t tell what colour her eyes were so I told her that. She explained how it changes with sun light and I told her I was born with green eyes but they turned brown after a few weeks.
Talked about religion, culture, etc. I asked her she was always the attractive girl or became super attractive later on in life (just trying to make it a bit flirty). She told me I’m her first first date in almost 7 years, she broke her engagement just a few months ago. I asked her why she decided to go out with me (kinda hoping she’d compliment me) but she just said she’s looking to meet new people and expand her social circle. We talked about travel and hobbies and some mindsets, etc.
Honestly, I really enjoyed the conversation but I wasn’t aroused at all, I’m sure it’s same for her. I didn’t really feel that spark, that romantic, kinda sexual energy. I really want to see her again but more so like friends, she’s very interesting.
But I’ve been noticing that with really attractive girls I maybe try to play it too safe to the point I don’t try to sexualize the conversation at all or get flirty. Now, I hadn’t been on date before this in quite sometime and I was definitely nervous. But I just think of all the times before I went on a date with really cute girls and had interesting but really friendly conversations.
I’m looking for something serious and didn’t have intentions of sleeping with her tonight but ofcourse open to the possibility if we’re on same page. On other occasions when I’ve been on dates with girls I’m just looking for something casual with, it feels so easy to sexualize the conversation and generally ends in sex, but they definitely think of me as a playboy and I wouldn’t want my future wifey to think of me that way but I’d definitely like to build some kind of attraction energy so it feels like a date than a friendly conversation.
Any suggestions for me?