48m 46f married 17 years together 20. So like the title says, my wife has never given me an orgasm. Sure we have sex, and I orgasm from that. She gives me blow jobs. I guess I should feel lucky that she even does it. But honestly there’re terrible. I literally feel nothing. It’s weird. I feel nothing at all. When we have sex it feels too damn good I can’t last as long as I’d like too. Why do I feel nothing from a bj. I’ve had plenty in the past. Never a problem cumming especially from someone who’s really putting in the effort. With my wife, no effort given. Hand jobs. Nope, other than during foreplay (which I love)
She’ll rub and stroke it for a bit. She’ll sometime lube it up and jack me off for a few but always stops. Only cum from actual sex. Never has she just sat me down and sucked me off or given a hand job with the sole purpose to make me cum. We’ve talked about it before, she says she just does t feel like she knows what she’s doing or how to do it well. I’ve very politely and respectfully offered up some advice. Nothing has worked. Sometime I feel like I’m trying to cum for her sake to give her some encouragement, which puts pressure on me and of course I can’t cum. I asked her not long ago and said, “ obviously you’ve given blowjobs before, did they cum?” She responded with, “yeah”. But she said that in a way that really came across as being very proud of the fact she has like, “yeah of course I have duh.” . And that’s always been a problem for me since she said that. I’m kind of hung up on it actually. Now I’m feeling insecure about it and can’t stop thinking about it. Why has she never offered this to me, but she’s offered it probably every guy before me? Is there something wrong with me? Is it that we’re married she doesn’t need to do that, but boyfriends before she did it to impress? I should say my wife isn’t very sexual at all. Isn’t into trying new things. Our sex life is pretty boring. I’ve in this last year have really tried to spice it up, but hasn’t really gone anywhere. It’s always been this way. I knew this goin in but was too young and inexperienced myself to see how it would be 20 years later. I know when she was younger before we dated she was a bit more adventurous sexually. Maybe being young and seeing what she liked and didn’t like? I don’t know. Our marriage is otherwise happy and healthy. We both work full time and life if very busy and stressful. We would both like to be able to relax and spend more quality time together but, life doesn’t slow down. We try when we can. But I guess my question is, how should I feel about this? I mean really? Is it weird that your sexual partner has never given you an orgasm? Oh and I love love love to go down on her. Like it’s the best for me. I almost like going down on her more and the actual sex itself. I could spend an hourh no problem. I make sure she always cums. We’re polar opposite in that area. This is my very first post ever on reddit so go easy lol…