Okay, so as the title suggests, I have–Well soon NOT to be my sex partner and I'm going to tell ya'll why.
For a little background story, me and this guy have been friends for a pretty long time. Since we were 5 and ended up dating from elementary into middle school but ultimately breaking up half way through sixth grade. He was basically my first boyfriend but I'm 100% sure we didn't love each other romantically. We did love each other generally.
Now in our adult years, I (25F) and him (25M) had sex a week after the new year of 2024. And if I'm being honest, it wasn't all that great. There was no foreplay, no dirty talk, and his main concern was making sure the neighbors didn't hear us. It was pretty much a turn off. But after that day, he left for Canada. Where I felt that would be the end of our sexually adventures with each other and I was absolutely fine with that.
Fast forwarding to the month of July 2024, he texts me checking in and asking if I was single. He did that sometimes before, to see if I was dating someone, seeing someone, or so on but I didn't really care. We were friends who had sex but I didn't see that as a big deal since he knew where I stood with relationships currently. Now this texting between us lasted longer than I had intended, but I won't shy away from the fact that he wanted sex. I wasn't planning on having sex with him again because of how much of a turn off it was the first time between us. But I thought, maybe it will be different this time and maybe I'll like it. So, I said, "Okay, see you soon."
Since he's came back, we've only had three sex dates and each one I didn't like. He cared if the neighbors heard us, there was no foreplay, no dirty talk, and every time he hit the right spot he would switch it up to maybe not have me moan as much. Honestly, it just made me want him to hurry up and cum and just fucking leave. I even gave him head and he never offered to do the same. I even suggested 69ing but it was like that went right over his head or he choose to ignore it. Since our last sex date July 15th, 2024. I made up excuses on why I wasn't available and since than I've been thinking of ways to kindly say, "You fucking suck at sex. You never listen to my needs. It's like you come to get yours like you're the only one that has to get pleasured and it's a huge turn off. You might as well pleasure your damn self with someone else or by yourself." without sounding like a major bitch. Even last night, he texted me to see if I was available and I didn't even bother to leave him on read nor reply. Sex with him has left me moody, cranky, and unsatisfied to the point where I don't even care if I lost him as an overall friend. And for all those times we've had sex, he's cum every time and I none. After he leaves, I literally turn to my dildo and my vib to get the job done where he couldn't.
Here is what he does during sex.; I ask him to go harder, he does it for a second and goes back to doing his thing which is basically rolling his dick in my pussy. I ask him to stimulate my clit, my guy takes his cock out and taps my clit with his fingers where he missed every time I may add. When I ask him to play with my boobs or my pussy as a form of foreplay, it's completely ignored. The routine is simple for him, touch the nipple a bit, kiss the neck a bit, and enter the pussy until he cums. I don't know if it's a lack of sex experience on his part or it's the fact we are just sex partners she he doesn't feel the need to please me but I'm not for the shit no more.
But overall, he is a good guy whose feelings I don't want to ACTUALLY hurt but want to end this unsatisfying sex life with. Any advice on how to do that kindly without hurting any ego or pride from a males perspective?