I was out with some friends and boyfriend (white English guy) watching the match and my boyfriend (referring to the Asian clientele) made a comment like "half of Mumbai is here". I got angry with him and told him off and he said he meant it as a good thing (diversity being a positive thing in a bar where people were watching an England match), he never meant to offend anyone and afterwards, he said "if I was on holiday and saw a lot of Brits, I would say something like 'half of Manchester is here". I know he is not racist or anything, he actually is very interested in Asian culture, he is politically liberal and is a very educated guy, supportive of free movement/immigration and is from an open minded liberal family.
I was also worried because most of my friends are liberal and I did not want him to be misunderstood. In the past with another friend (who knows the one who was at our table that day) he made a comment when a group of people walked in like "they have (insert nation here) faces". After that day we had an argument and I asked him a few times not to say things like that,
Was I being too woke and worried? The thing is I am caught in between "the guy is definitely not bigoted or racist, and my friends should know it" and "he knows better to say things like that". But when he said "I would say that about Brits abroad too" I thought "he did not mean anything bad". AIBU thinking that? I am asking this question in good faith.