This isn't a complaint or anything… Just looking for input.
Background : wife and I are married 10 years.. 2 kids.. One is still in diapers. We are in our early 40s and have demanding jobs.
My wife has never been an overtly sexual woman and our sex life has been poor (to me that is).. Some time after marraige I asked my wife about masturbation and she literally said this "that is for animals who can't control themselves" (but only for women… Men can do it).
I was shocked… But.. It is what it is..
Now, when we do have sex, it is usually under certain circumstances such as the house is empty.. That is rare but when it happens, we have sex. She always orgasm (oral, before piv) and as far as I know, she enjoys… But she has never initiated.. Since before kids..
Anyways, at some point I got a magic wand to spice things up in the bedroom and who knows maybe she might even use it on her own and kind of become more interested in sex.. That was around 2 years ago…
Anyways, she was up I could hear her go to the adjacent room and I heard what was a buzzing sound… It had to the magic wand..
I'm excited but also confused.. I am happy she is feeling horny.. But insecure about what suddenly made her feel that way.
Also we do no sleep in the same room… She cosleeps with the baby.
Anyways, just looking for input here. Sorry for the wall of text