I often think about the phrase “argue like a married couple” and posts about couples fighting and arguing often in friend groups.
Now that I (22F) am together with my (21M) boyfriend, I see that arguments don’t actually happen that often. We disagree on certain things, but it rarely devolves into an argument – we just talk things out for the most part. Sometimes either one of us will get upset about it, but we work to make sure the other is feeling okay. I think another part of it is I go nonverbal when I’m upset (until I’m ready to talk) and he is not an argumentative person either so neither of us really have the capacity to fight. Of course I’m very happy that we don’t argue because arguing is quite a big stressor in my life. For context, we have been together 9 months and have known each other for 13-14 months.
I understand the reason why couples would fight a lot. Spending so much time with someone gives you more to disagree on. And when you’re that close with someone, it feels like it matters more that you agree on certain things. I’m just curious to hear how it is in other relationships.
TL;DR, how often do you argue in your relationship if you guys argue at all? Do you solve disagreements with a discussion or does it turn into an argument?