I’m 26 F and have a boyfriend who’s 28. I would consider my sex drive “normal” or so I thought. I’ve always had partners who were all over me , would actually be upset if I didn’t want to have sex (which is rare) and would/could have sex multiple times a day. My current boyfriend literally seems to care less about having sex or not. It’s not that we never do, but if I don’t try first or not mention it he’ll go a week or longer without ever seeming to get horny in the slightest. I’ve tried to talk to him about how it makes me feel but I know I haven’t been direct enough. His lack of interest makes me feel so depressed because I feel like he’s not nearly as attracted to me as I am to him. He’s told me before that this isn’t the case it’s just how he is. But everything you hear about pretty much all men is how that’s all they want etc. so I really have a hard time understanding how he could be in love with me as he says and never get that urge even cuddling with me on the couch or if I’m naked he can just zone out watching tv and not pay any mind to me. I hate feeling like I have to ask or tel him when I have sex, I just want to feel like he really wants to or “can’t get enough of me” sometimes. Obviously I can’t tell him this part but I find myself comparing how confident I felt with partners who made me feel sexy to how depressed I feel now that i have a partner who is never the “can’t keep my hands off you” type. Being with him honestly makes me feel like some kind of sex addict. I’m not but I just feel so sexually frustrated I guess and like I’m some kind of freak for wanting it so much when he doesn’t? Because I’ve never been with anyone with a lower sex drive. And my partner doesn’t have any issues with performing when we do have sex so it’s not that. I guess what I’m asking is a couple of things…
Are there other reasons this could be happening?
How do I talk to him about this?