Note: I often feel responsible for keeping any conversation going and it makes it really hard to just give up on conversations.
So this happened over text. I had a conversation with someone I care about where I asked them a question, they barely shared anything but then asked me the same question back so I shared a bunch of stuff. they just replied with “how great”, and then I didn’t have much more to say to that so I asked another question. It was a stupid obvious question so they didn’t really say much about that either. Then I just didn’t know what to say anymore. We stopped talking and they aren’t saying anything. I’m in panic because I really am afraid they might not talk to me again if I don’t make the effort to start a conversation again. I truly care about them and want to talk to them but I am stuck because I do not have anything else to say and I feel like they won’t contribute anything else to the conversation anymore, or that they dislike me and think I’m boring because I don’t have anything good to say. What should I do?
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Idk
You should look at why you feel responsible for carrying conversations and address that.
Mirror the other person’s energy. If they’re giving multiple dry responses, they don’t want to talk. So just let the conversation end. Maybe they dislike you, maybe they think you’re boring – but you can’t control that by persisting in engaging further. That usually tends to have the opposite effect of what you want. You aren’t going to hit it off with every single person (hell, you aren’t even going to get along with every person), but that’s life. Don’t take it personally, just move on to people who show you they want to talk to you as much as you want to talk to them.