Are you comfortable with your partner hugging/touching ppl of the opposite gender (beyond hello/goodbye hugs?)
CONTEXT: I just started dating this guy who’s pretty outgoing and social. It’s only been about 9 months, and we’ve had some issues with boundaries. I’ve noticed in particular that he will get touchy both women and men – especially when he’s drunk.
Some examples: The first time he met one of my girlfriends, we were drinking together and he came up aside her and put his hand around her lower waist. I felt EXTREMELY uncomfortable, and my friend actually HATES being touched in general. Another time, we were hanging out with a group of friends, and he started poking/fake tapping his female friend to tease her. (Remember how kids used to do this in middle school? Similar energy). Again, extremely uncomfortable for me to watch.
I told him this is a boundary for me. I am fine with hello/goodbye hugs, and like regular taps on the shoulder, but anything beyond that is weird to me. He has a few female friends, and I’ve met them, they’re chill.
He lamented that it’s just how he is as a person. He said, he doesn’t want to change his entire personality and feel like he has to be unnatural/on edge. We’re both 28. So am I overreacting??