I am a 23 year old male who's tetraplegic since 2022. I am about 80% paralyzed, I can move my wrists, arms, shoulders, neck & my head. Im in a manual wheelchair.
On top of that I have ARFID, so food always been a problem for me. My parents did everything they could but gave up at somepoint. I also have epilepsy which caused my disability but it does not happen often. So I need someone who could also save me during a seizure.
I just don't see how I can ever date. I downloaded dating apps, visited dating subs and all I see is Loves to cook all kinds of things for you, someone who can take care of me, Go and see places together, cuddle on the couch all day. All those "bulletpoints" are either something I cannot really achieve or is hard to achieve for me.
Going somewhere is a struggle to begin with because, I face things like a number 1 & 2 without being able to do anything against it (i wear a catheter but it still leaks sometimes) due to bladder and bowel issues. It does not happen often but the chance is still there.
I live in a small town where you can barely do a thing, so I would have to travel to a bigger city but public transport is hell. My friends say my personality is like an angel and I would not say I look very ugly but that is for others to judge.
How much of a problem is this for girls really? I know everyone has their own views & preferences, but I just feel lost in the whole dating scene. It feels impossible since I probably put a whole lot on my "future girlfriend" her shoulders.