TW: Sexual Assault
I need advice. I’m literally crying rn. My boyfriend told me he was sexually assaulted by his family member, a woman. He doesn’t feel okay telling me who. He was in primary. She used to make him suck her boobs and used to give him a handjob. He said he weirdly enjoyed it cause he didn’t realise its wrong. He comes from a family where relatives live like 2 mins away and they have family gatherings every now and then. He said he has normalised talking to her and has never acted weird. Said he can’t tell anyone and can’t act weird cause it will create problems that he can’t handle.
I was crying when he told me this. I felt disgusted. I wanted to puke. But at the same time, i wonder how he’s okay with talking to her. He said he’s pretty comfortable w her and doesn’t avoid her. Why don’t i feel okay w that? Am i feeling insecure? I am disgusted cause i have been through this but i can’t be in the same family gathering as my assaulter. I could never. What should i do? What advice should i give him? Am i wrong for feeling i was better off without knowing this?
I feel so lost and idk… i just feel like i didn’t wanna know this… i feel like shit for feeling this way. What should i do? I wanna cry. Help.
Edit: if anyone thinks i’m being insensitive please tell me that as well. I don’t want to make him feel like his problem doesn’t matter. I would throw hands if he told me who she is.