My ‘28F’ bf ‘35M’ and I have been together for 1 year. He’s previously shared with me that he’s never been in a threesome and that’s something he’s always wanted to try. I spoke to him openly and told him my experience ( I have been in threesomes and foursomes with other women.)
The truth is that that is my past and although I enjoyed it in its time, it’s not something I want to have in my relationship. I told him like if it happens it happens but I’m not going to go out to look for that.
Sometimes when we have sex he’ll want to put on porn ( I enjoy that sometimes) but it’s usually thressomes. Also, when we dirty talk he starts talking about me with another woman. It’s making me feel insecure, like that’s all he’s thinking about.
He says he’s never had the ability to share this fantasy in his past relationships. That he’s really happy he’s able to talk to me about that.
I sometimes feel it was a mistake to open that door.
The truth is I only want to be with him and now I have this growing insecurity that I won’t be able to satisfy him. We have amazing sex and I really love him.
Question:
What advice can you tell me about this insecurity and how to handle it?
Is it good that he’s able to be open with me?