Wife of 12 years informed me that she has put up a wall, fears we are unhappy and there is no coming back from it.
This was news to me and caught me off guard. She apologized for the surprise of it all. Since then, we have talked all options, calmly and logistically. Whether that's a separation or the marriage continues. I have stepped up on being more attentive and less stubborn. The latter we are both guilty of. I opened up and made changes to try harder. Acknowledged my faults and where I can improve (activities, traveling, and not being so quick to say no to things)
She's acknowledged those changes, that I have been more supportive of her needs and happiness she desires. She has promised to try, but admitted with this wall she put up. It won't be easy. She also expressed she will not lead me on, that her wall will be in place until she feels safe and if she believes it's 100% over she will inform me of that, as to not waste any our time. I understand and respect that, despite how much it hurts.
Right now she is against counseling due to cost. I'm already in therapy and have been working on myself, another thing she has acknowledge about me.
Anyone here have success stories of overcoming this obstacle? Any tips or insights that might help us to be successful?