Comments about names

People often comment and ask questions about my name. On the phone, in person, in casual and professional settings. Especially at stores and doctors’ offices. I hate it. It’s not so much what they say (unless they are outright making fun of my name) but the extremely belittling, condescending tone of voice. I have never, ever had a positive experience with anyone who starts with this. Over the years, it has evolved into increased avoidance, anxiety, and isolation. I have even tried to change it, alter it, etc. No improvement. Overall, it feels Othering and just plain rude. 90% of the time it goes straight into race questions. I was raised to not make such comments. I would never dive into personal questions with someone upon meeting. Particularly in a non-social environment. I usually try to deflect, sometimes I just shut it down. No matter what, it always ends up super awkward. The comments and questions feel like someone is all up in my personal space.