Tl;Dr: for whatever reason, I don't have a desire to emotionally connect with my partner. I feel constantly closed off. How can I change that about myself?
Things have been rough between myself and my partner for the past few years because of a lot of life issues that came up for the both of us. I wouldn't say that I'm actively unhappy. Our relationship is definitely improving slowly and neither of us want to be with someone else. We have fun together day-to-day and are better partners to each other than ever. But, I guess it just kind of feels like we've both evolved into different people over the past few years. Things feel shallow to me. But, I feel like that point of view is taking her for granted and I definitely don't want to do that. She definitely puts in effort to connect with me from time to time. But, I just feel so closed off constantly. How can I approach the situation with a different perspective? What can I do for myself to re-find that desire for intimacy and deep emotional connection with my partner?