Too tight for penetration?

So I’ve been with three guys. The first one fingered me super hard and it hurt for the most part but not to the point of it being unbearable like I still let him keep going and it was whatever. We did penetration and it felt good there was no hurting there. At certain angles his fingering felt good. The next guy was huge and he kept making me try and take it all and because the condom had no lube and my pussy was so dry it wasn’t working and I took probably half keep in mind he was super long and thick but it just hurt so bad to take nah more than that and at that point my pussy was so irritated he couldn’t even try and finger me cause it already hurt so bad and was so swollen. My pussy lips were swollen and burning after these encounters when I would pee and it hurt for a few days. However I’ve got a boyfriend recently and it kind of hurts when he fingers me like I’m not sure what he’s hitting when he does it but it hurts but then sometimes if he’s at a certain angle it feels really good. I haven’t done piv because I’m kind of nervous from my last two encounters lol. He was telling me like is there anything I can do I suggested lube and he was saying I’ve never had a girl where it hurts to go in is there something wrong. So now I am kind of stressed because is there something wrong? Because the first guy I hooked up with we were going to do it again but he kept saying I was too tight although none of the penetration hurt that much for me. When I finger myself it goes in just fine and doesn’t hurt but I only use one finger although I’ve used bigger things before. What can I do to fix this? Is there something wrong with me? Is it possible to be too tight?