I’m 24. I do have friends, but almost none of them know each other. Most live far away. I have two friends near me who are usually too tied up to make plans.
Anyway, I’m self conscious about it because I know a lot of people are weirded out by someone not having many friends, as it can be telling in some situations. It’s especially embarrassing because I’ve lived in my city just about my whole life, so it’s not like I’ve moved around. But I was also sheltered, and have always been socially awkward.
I wish I could make more friends. My partner has a large friend group, and I feel like they find it odd that I don’t.
Can anyone offer advice on making friends at my age? For someone who mainly just goes to work and back home? I’d love a solid group to call my own.
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Genuinely connect with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.