Often times I will meet people, and for context I’m a first year in college, and we will talk and chat and laugh together, exchange social media (I’ve been usually initiating it), but then that’s it. I realize there is something wrong with my personality and that’s the reason why people may not want to have a second conversation. I just wish someone could tell me truthfully what’s so off putting about me. Like that feeling when you say something in the group everyone stops talking. Or people just give me short glances but never actually check up on me. I don’t have many friends, never really celebrated my birthday, and I’m not close with family at all. I just wish someone can tell me what I’m doing wrong.
I feel that it is strange to ask someone you don’t really know their first impression of you, but I think that’s what I need. The only sort of feedback I’ve ever gotten in that sense was that they just thought I was “quiet” or “nervous”.
Does it seem like like you guys are always initiating things?