The title sounds like a bad joke, but I'm dead serious: I'm grew up Tarzen-style. Severely isolated till I was an adult and feral as can be. Reasons were partially autism, but also abusive environments overall. I "solved" my problems with my fist till I got threatened with juvie.
Through the years I managed to advance quiet a bunch. However, what I struggle most, I realized, are those Interpersonal Social Skills. The fine-tuning, you can say. Like, Just a few months before, a friend needed to explain how "listening" works, when someone comes for emotional support. The joke here is, I KNEW in theory, but I didn't know the praxis. "Listening" doesn't literally include the idea of just sitting there silently, while the other person talks. You gotta give feedback here and there: A headnod, a "that makes sense, yeah", a "and that made you feel sad?"
Sadly, this shit is robbing me of more and more opportunities in life. I often get outcasted cause of it. But obviously -if I get outcasted, I can't learn shit. I've also looked into some "social training for autism", but idk if that's worth a dime, or if its some infantilizing "say please and thank you" bullshit.
Any ideas?