Hi, my husband and I (32m and 31f) have been together for 7 years now. We have a 3 year old son and a daughter on the way. We currently live in a medium sized city in the Midwestern US.
About a month or so ago, my husband brought up the idea of moving to California, in either the LA or San Diego areas. I initially took it as a joke, but he will not drop the issue.
He claims this is the best move for our family, because there’ll be better job opportunities for both of us, better weather, beaches and outdoor activities for the kids, and an overall better quality of life. He feels that he’s “missing out” by living in “the middle of nowhere”. I admit, we don’t live in the most exciting city, but it’s certainly not the middle of nowhere.
I’ve repeatedly told him that I’m hesitant because of the higher cost of living, and the fact that both of our families live in the area and help with childcare. Neither of us know anyone in California, so we wouldn’t have as much of a support system there.
I’ve even offered to consider the idea in a few years when the kids are a bit older, but he insists it has to be “ASAP”. He also keeps showing me listings of homes even after I’ve asked him to stop.
I did ask him how he plans to pull off a move like this “ASAP” with me being 8 months pregnant and a 3 year old running around, but he says that we’ll “figure it out” and that “that’s why we have moving companies”.
Reddit, please help me convince him that this isn’t a feasible idea at the moment! Any advice is greatly appreciated.
TLDR: husband wants to move across the country to California. I don’t agree with him that this is the best idea at the moment, but he refuses to let this idea go. How can I get him to stop bringing it up?